Separated?????????

If 2 people grow apart is there any way to rekindle the love. I've been married 13 yrs and have 2 great boys (9 and 6 yrs old). The wife told me 5 months ago that she din't love me like a wife should love her husband but she still had feelings for me. She wanted a seperation because she was focusing on all the negative and wanted some time to figure out herself. I never hit her or the kids, but she says i've mentally abused her through the years. We heads on different opinions but I don't think I'vei abused her. I'm impulsive and will raise my voice but I've been doing counceling and have found some peace with myself. I moved out last week (it's not what i wanted) and we are doing marriage counceling but I do not know what to do anymore. I feel like the counceling is a smoke screen and would love to get my marriage back. I will do anything for my kids but it takes 2.